Recently, one of my online mom friends passed along a bit of wisdom that an older lady at her church had given to her.
“When you are raising small children, there is no such thing as a good day, only good moments. The sooner you accept that, the happier you’ll be.”
Bam! As soon as I read that one it hit me over the head.
I needed that.
I needed someone to tell me that I wasn’t failing and that striving for a “good day” with a 2 year old was ridiculous.
The idea of “good moments,” though, I could really connect with.
Our days were full of good moments:
– Lorelei told me “thanks” without prompting.
– She ate her lunch really well (and it was healthy!)
– We had a dance party to the Frozen soundtrack complete with tutus.
After a few days, I noticed that one of the reoccurring good moments was watching the school buses go by our house.
We live pretty close to a local middle school so every afternoon traffic really picks up on the road in front of our house, complete with school buses. Lorelei has always loved watching the cars go by but school buses take it to a whole new level.
I decided to add a guaranteed “good moment” to our daily routine.
Every day at 1:45 p.m. we go sit on the front porch and watch the buses go by. We watch them pass on their way to the school and then wait for them to load the students and head back past our house as they begin their routes.
Lorelei waves to the drivers and yells “KIDS!!!” when she sees the full bus loads.
We count the six buses that will pass our house and then know that if we wait another 15 minutes or so we’ll see the handicapped bus (and 9 times out of 10 that driver honks at us, which Lorelei loves!)
For the past 7 school days, we’ve spent 30 minutes a day watching the buses go by. That’s 3.5 hours of good moments.
Being a mom to a two year old is hard.
Running your own business is hard.
Finding a balance between work and family is hard (so hard that I wrote an entire post about it!)
On days (like today) when my toddler skips a nap and a client needs my attention and my husband is working an extra shift, all I really want is a drink that’s hard.
Its easy to look at those days as “bad days” and feel like I failed.
Now I know that there was at least one good moment in every one of those days. (And I’ve yet to have a day that I couldn’t come up with a few more good moments to add to the list).
Would I call it a good day as a whole? Probably not.
Were there enough good moments to make it all O.K.? Definitely.
What were your good moments today?