Wedding Planning Farm Girl Style

When Aaron popped the question in February, I immediately started planning our big day.

Since I would be on the other end of the state working with the Governor’s Scholars Program all summer, we postponed most of the planning until this fall.

Now that we’ve settled back into school, I’ve been focused completely on the wedding, spending too much time on The Knot and watching way too much Say Yes to the Dress!

One website suggested that I bring an engagement photo to show the dress consultants my style. I wonder what kind of dress this photo will get me?

Being a farm girl, I’m much too independent and budget conscious to hire someone to do a lot of the wedding tasks.

In the wedding world, they call this DIY (do it yourself). Wedding gurus consider it admirable to be a “DIY Bride” because you put a personal touch on everything.

In agriculture, we call it just plain practical.

So I’m dusting off my old FFA floriculture skills and making my own centerpieces, bouncing invitation layouts off of my print design professor and taking advantage of having an amazing seamstress for a grandmother when it comes to help with table runners.

There’s just one thing I’m clueless about…the dress!

I know, the most iconic part of the big day and I’m at a complete loss.

I’m not a dress wearer. Sure, I’ll throw on a skirt and heels when needed but its not something I’ve been dreaming about since I was a little girl.

My childhood fantasy about getting married meant having a big party, looking really pretty and marrying a farmer. Pretty simple!

Not organza and drop waists and sweetheart necklines and lace or whatever they make those things out of!

Needless to say, I’ve been scouring the internet for “wedding dress shopping for dummies” tips.

Sadly, I don’t think any of these were written for farm girls. The language is too vague and too confusing for this girl who lives her life in blue jeans and t-shirts!

So I’m turning to my “farm wife” readers for advice:

What made the dress shopping experience easier for you?

How do you explain to a consultant that fashion icon is a lot more Scarlett O’Hara than Lady Gaga?

How do you explain country chic without the consultant thinking you’re trying to shoot an episode of My Big Redneck Wedding?

About Celeste

Celeste grew up on a family beef cattle and show pig farm in Western Kentucky. In addition to farming and life as a restaurant wife, Celeste owns Celeste Communications where she works as a photographer, graphic designer, videographer and consultant. This blog is Celeste's personal soapbox. Any ranting or raving is her own and does not reflect the opinions of any of her clients. All photos and posts are copyrighted property of Celeste Communications.


Wedding Planning Farm Girl Style — 8 Comments

  1. just go try some dresses on! quit searching for perfect in a magazine! and when you put on “the one”, you’ll know! i only tried on 1 wedding dress…and i had no idea what i wanted when i went shopping! good luck! if you need another shopping buddy, let me know! :)

  2. I agree with Hope! Just go try some on! You will figure out which styles work and which styles definitely don’t! I will admit I’m a big fan of Say Yes to the Dress (still am even though I have my dress!) Anyway, tell them about your Scarlet style! That will help! You know yourself better than anyone, so don’t let anybody talk you into something that you might have doubts on. I found mine while looking online, and after dress shopping for a weekend, I didn’t find it. I hunted it down and the second I put it on, my mom and I both started crying. I guess that’s how we knew! Ha! Enjoy wedding shopping. Bring your mom and your most trusted friend; they will be honest and help you sort through all the white until you find THE ONE! (Much harder than finding the groom, I think!)

    Best wishes!

  3. As a newlywed (four months down, a lifetime to go!) I clearly remember my wedding dress shopping experience, as it was just over a year ago. Here’s what I learned, what I knew, what worked, and what didn’t:
    1. Know your basic objective — I knew I wanted to look vintage. Therefore the bridal attendant knew I didn’t want a modern sheath. It eliminated going through dresses that I wouldn’t be buying.
    2. Understand your shopping style — If you like to shop, go ahead and visit as many stores and try on as many dresses as you like, but if like me and you’re not a shopper, there’s nothing wrong with doing a little prep work online and with magazines, then going to a bridal store one time to find and purchase your gown. There is no perfect formula to finding your wedding dress. Just do what’s comfortable.
    3. Know what your favorite feature on all the gowns you’re drawn to is, what relates them to one another — For me, it was an open back, for one friend it was corset lacing up the back, for another it was a princess neckline. Knowing what that feature is and communicating to your attendant makes everyone’s job easier. I only had to try on a few gowns before my Mom, the store’s attendant and I all knew we’d found “the one.” It was somewhat vintage looking with an open back–just what I wanted.
    4. Once you’ve made your choice (and put the money down), quit looking. There will always be other beautiful dresses. Don’t doubt your decision; it’ll only make you miserable. I had trouble with this–letting go of looking. I think it stems from the expectation surrounding the wedding dress. I mean, we know this is going to be a once in a lifetime purchase. And, we know that most traditionalists have great expectations surrounding a radiant bride–which in truth has more to do with her disposition than her dress, but was nevertheless a bit of a stressor for me.
    5. If you’re buying it off the rack (an impossible thing for my 6’4″ frame) get it professionally altered to fit flawlessly. You will not only look even better, but will be more comfortable in a dress that fits perfectly without the need to pull up it’s sagging neckline or smooth the puckering bodice.

    Well, I hope this helps. I look forward to following your wedding planning progress and am so glad my sister virtually introduced us! Congratulations Celeste.

  4. I booked my small wedding as a folk wedding – made simple, basic medieval gowns for girls, mom and I made my bright 3 colored skirt and belt – used hubby’s pants from Ren. Faire as pattern and made the boy’s outfits – paid money for flowers, photographer and got a cake deal – the rest we did and saved the money for our first house – and we’re still here together years later, while many friends and family that spend a fortune – $25,000 plus are already divorced!

  5. I love this blog especially knowing you have indeed found the perfect dress.
    I love the saying in the farm world we call it just being practical. But Oh how the city folks don’t understand practical. Too funny! The wedding is <8months.. CRAZY

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